You may have heard that the good die young and maybe even seen it for yourself. But why does that happen? Let me explain.
Back in the early 1980’s, the world renowned metaphysical teacher Louise Hay conducted a huge experiment. She wanted to know whether illness happened to us randomly, or whether certain personality types corresponded to different illnesses. Louise looked at thousands of people and the illnesses they were suffering from, and found that not only did personality make a difference, ‘thought patterns’ around past issues also played a big part.
She observed that the types of people to get cancer tended to be described by others as being especially nice, kind, good people. They said yes to everything and everyone, tending to other people’s needs before their own, even when they barely had the capacity to do so. They rarely, if ever, expressed anger, annoyance or resentment of any kind for fear of appearing to be a ‘bad person’, or hurting someone else’s feelings. I have noticed this pattern time and time again in my practice. One lady with bowel cancer was a devout Christian and I remember her telling me that she found it easy to pray for others but impossible to pray for herself. How sad that she felt that way even when faced with a life threatening illness, but very typical of the personality traits that often go with cancer.
Migraines, Louise noticed, were often suffered by perfectionist types. They tend to have extremely high standards that they impose upon themselves, and put themselves under extreme pressure to be neat, clean, tidy, and generally perfect in every way. Again, I’ve noticed this time and again in my practice, and only recently I heard a mother describing her daughter who’s suffered from debilitating migraines her entire adult life. “She has to have everything just so”, she said without any prompting. “As soon as her husband puts his empty coffee cup down, she whisks it away and puts it in the dishwasher”. This might sound like a flippant comment, but it’s very telling, and typical of a migraine type personality.
One patient of mine suffered terrible anxiety, and despite being past retirement would berate himself for not being busy all day, doing jobs around the house or running errands for friends and family. The medicine helped to some extent, but we also talked about when he was at boarding school, he worked out that being extra helpful protected him from abuse by his teachers. Even though that danger had passed long ago, his mind had remained stuck in that pattern his entire life, telling him that he would only be safe if he kept busy.
A friend was so stressed at work she sat there one day and began to think seriously about leaving. As she went home the same day, she fell down the step, which she’d manage to go down safely thousands of times over the years, and twisted her right ankle. When I explained that right ankles can relate to taking a step forward with regard to work and career, the decision was quickly made. She’s now retraining and will start a new career when she qualifies in a few years time.
I could give you hundreds more examples, but you get the picture. Illness is certainly not something that happens to us by accident, or random coincidence. Whilst you could argue that too much cake lead to the diabetes, the skiing accident caused the ankle to break, or the smoking caused the lung cancer. To some extent that’s true, but not all cake fanatics get diabetes. Not all skiers break their ankles, and believe it or not, many people with lung cancer have never even touched a cigarette. As my Reiki master said, these factors are “the means but not the message”. In other words, the thought pattern or personality type must be there before the food/accident/cigarettes will trigger the illness. Few of us realise just how strong the mind-body connection is when it comes to illness, but learning about it can literally be life saving.
It’s impossible to fix a problem when you don’t truly understand what the problem is. That’s why I insist on exploring this aspect of illness with all of my patients, and why we get great results in double quick time. If you’re suffering with chronic health issues, I’d strongly encourage you to look into this more, as it will give you valuable insights and help you to take bigger steps forward.
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